Self-esteem plays a role in almost everything you do. People with high self-esteem do better in school and find it easier to make friends. Self-esteem is certainly not a static characteristic. Rather, it is extremely dynamic, even changing from day to day during adolescence. Self Esteem can best be compared to a powerful battery. When the battery is fully charged, the individual feels confident and raring to go; when the battery is run down the individual feels lack of confidence in self.
Feelings of inadequacy, self doubt and a reduced confidence in your abilities. In other words failure makes you feel bad, and as you already know, things that make you feel bad can lower your self esteem.
Low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person’s own judgments of him or herself. However, low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression, anxiety, phobias, psychosis, delusional thinking, or who have an illness or a disability. Feeling good about yourself will enable you to be relaxed, positive and creative and more able to take control of all aspects of your life.
Failures and disappointments can result to low self-esteem. When your goals and objectives are not met, chances are you get frustrated and you become negative about your capabilities. Failure just means you are not successful YET. Everybody fails before succeeding; do not look on it as failure but as a means to learning.
Negative self-esteem can create anxiety, stress, loneliness, depression and problems with relationships seriously impair academic and job performance and also can generate an increased vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse and dependency. On the other hand, a person with positive self-esteem tends to be more motivated in taking on and creating a life that he loves, living it powerfully and in this process be authentically related to others in his community. Negative beliefs do not stop us from wanting or desiring something. Overcome your negative beliefs by making a list of those items you „actively“ desire and that you still have not been able to create. Negative belief: I am a bad person. You search your past and you find an instance were you helped somebody successfully.
Negative thoughts can permeate your confidence and disintegrate your self esteem. Try to best remedy the problem, if you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation.